SHE’S PREGNANT! NOW WHAT?
Although your legal rights are limited, your influence is vitality important. Maybe she’s your girlfriend, maybe she isn’t. Both of you have many decisions to make. Ultimately, she must make a decision with or without you. Here you will find out some resources and suggestions on what to do during this situation.
What to Know:
- She has the final say.
Legally, the woman has the final say in what happens until the child is born.
- You are the father.
Legally, you are the father. Don’t be silent! Discuss your future with her. If the child is born, the law requires you to be financially responsible for the child, regardless of your decision on your involvement. You should understand your rights and responsibilities in the scenarios of parenting, adoption and abortion.
What to Do:
Regardless of your relationship status, you’re both responsible for this unborn child. The more you listen to her, the more likely she will be willing to listen to you. Consider how she is feeling and what she is going through.
- Find the Facts:
Don’t leave questions unanswered or rush the decision-making process. This is one of the most important decisions you will ever make, so it’s important to find out the facts of the pregnancy. Take a deep breath, and make sure you are your partner in this unplanned pregnancy are exploring all your options.
- Talk About It:
It’s vital to talk about this situation and not back off and avoid discussion because you are afraid. Hiding it will only build tension in an already tense situation. Talk with her and whoever else she feels comfortable talking to. It might be hard to start the conversation, but it’s better than never having it at all.
- Express How You Feel:
It’s likely she wants to know how you feel, but also allow her to do the same. Whether she expresses what she’s feeling or not, she needs your support.
What Not To Do:
- Pressure Her:
This will only push her away and cause her unneeded stress. She has to make this decision based on what’s best for her and her health.
- Bail On Her:
If you run and hide during this time, you will lose an opportunity to be involved in the decisions and the situations that play out. You will only be left with the negative consequences of your own decision.